Thursday 30 November 2006

World AIDS Day 2006

Some items to share in recognition of World AIDS Day:

Award-winning Getty Images photographer Brent Stirton
has curated an amazing selection of photos he shot around the globe of people living with HIV/AIDS.

Capturing both hope and tragedy, Stirton shows the many faces and circumstances of those living with the disease. AOL spoke with the photographer and we've added his audio narration to each of the images. Get the story behind the photos -- like this one of a male prostitute in China -- in the photographer's own words.

Click to See and Hear 'Behind the Lens: Brent Stirton'




Over at heretv.com, the gay television network has launched a Virtual AIDS Quilt. The online quilt allows visitors to upload a photo and remembrance of loved ones lost to AIDS.

Click to See or Add to the Quilt




Metro Weekly posts the stories of four Washingtonians living with HIV:

''One person says a gay person is bad, then gay people cause AIDS. That's the thinking in some people's minds. It doesn't matter if you're gay or straight. It matters if you're having unprotected sex, regardless of how you identify.'' 
Clickto Read 'It Starts with Human'




Additional Links
World AIDS Day.org
Light a Candle at 'Light to Unite', where each candle lit equals $1 donated to the National AIDS Fund
Tonight on Cinemax: 'Positively Naked'
, '85 HIV+ Souls. No Clothes. No Apologies.'

 From Some of My Favorite Bloggers:
'Make World AIDS Day Mean Something' -- Joe.My.God
'Debunking Myths About Black Men' -- Keith Boykin
'Life is Stronger than AIDS' -- Made in Brazil
World AIDS Day TV Picks -- The Telly Nelly
'Last year I Rallied Against AIDS Fatigue' -- Queering the Apparatus
'All I Want Is a Cure and My Friends Back' -- The Republic of T

The Art of Seduction


I took this quiz to find out what my seduction style is. It's pretty fun, though I'm a little devastated by the line "all in all, you're a decent catch" as spelled out in my results, displayed below.

Decent. DECENT???

Is there something about "Honey, we said 3:00PM Saturday, it's 3:00PM, now get in here" that isn't sexy seduction at its best? I don't get it.

Try the quiz for yourself and see if it captures the real you.

hat tip to NetGirl

 

Wednesday 29 November 2006

Showcase of Lesbian DJs

My gal-pal Bambi over at Curve magazine hooked me up with some photos from a women's dance event they hosted in the Bay area a few weeks ago. Talk about hottie-hot!

Super-DJs from around the country came in for it to spin tunes, including DJ Pat Pat, DJ Olga T, DJ Gray and DJ Saratonin -- all of whom have Web sites or MySpace pages worth perusing.

My women friends always tell me there aren't enough lesbian club events or places to go, which sucks. Perhaps this will inspire other events since these photos pretty much say "this was one L of dance party!"

Click to See Photo Gallery:




To my female readers -- what is the lesbian social scene like where you live? Leave a comment here.

Oh, and after you page through the photo gallery, check out CURVE's interview with Erin Cummings, who plays the sexy 'n sweet girl-next-door on 'Dante's Cove,' seen on the here! cable network. 

"I don’t have any sexual hang-ups if that makes sense. So, for me, like I said, I live with a gay couple, it doesn’t freak me out or bother me to see twomen together or two women together. So I don’t think that it really changed me in the fact that I was already really open ... In fact, I think it made me feel more at home, because I felt like when I was working on 'Dante’s Cove,' I was living in the world as it should be. I felt like I was at home, where women could be with women and men could be with men, and women could be with men and everyone could live together in harmony ..."

 


Tuesday 28 November 2006

The Gayest Thanksgiving Ever

How was everyone's Thanksgiving? Anything happen? Something someone said that stopped all dinner conversation around the table? You found your best friend's boyfriend's underwear in your husband's Jack Spade duffle bag? Or perhaps, like my friend Curly McDimple, you called Peppermint Patty the "C" word and outed two 'Peanuts' characters while watching 'A Charlie Brown Thanksgiving'.

Everyone has a story, what's yours? Leave it in the comments.

Here's a quick round-up of my Thanksgiving weekend, spent with crazy dear friends at a remote location in the woods.


Pictured: Jeff, Scott, Kenneth, Alex, Matt

Number of Guys: Five.

Who Has Slept With Whom: Not entirely sure.

Thanksgiving Dinner, by Chef Scott:
Roasted Red Chile Pecans (5 lbs, 150,000 calories)
Split Pea Peasant Soup with homemade Rye/Pumpernickel Croutons
Free-Range Turkey with Chiles and Garlic (18 lbs, serves 5)
Fresh-Herbed Sausage and Mushroom Stuffing
Green Beans with hand-crafted Chipolte Butter (served room)
Roasted Rosemary Yams (mashed delicately)

Dessert: Triple Chocolate Bundt Cake with Ginger, by chef Ginger Jeff

Book I Read Half Of: 'Alternatives to Sex' by Stephen McCauley. Loving it.

Famous Authors Present: One, Alex MacLennan, 'The Zookeeper'

Total Number of Naps by Group: 12

DVDs Watched, and Associated Cherries That Were Popped
It was shocking to learn our little group of urban gay 30- and 40-somethings had never seen some key films that are iconic for the gays. Of course we all relished being able to say that everyone present was still a virgin at something.

'The Way We Were' starring Barbra Streisand and Robert Redford.
(Cherries popped: 3) (Number of times I've seen it: 50+*)

'Call Me Madam' starring Ethel Merman, Donald O'Connor and Vera-Ellen. Hysterical and very fun.
(Cherries popped: 3)

'My Favorite Broadway: The Leading Ladies' hosted by Julie Andrews. Kick-ass performances by too many divas to mention. Kick-ass, I tell you!
(Cherries popped: 2)

'Company: Original Cast Album' -- an amazing, heart-pounding** documentary about the making of Sondheim's masterpiece cast recording. You wouldn't believe how many takes Elaine Stritch required in order to nail 'The Ladies Who Lunch.' 
(Cherries popped: 2)

'Valley of the Dolls' starring Barbara Parkins, Patty Duke, Sharon Tate
(Cherries popped: an astounding 5)
Note: The new special edition 'Valley of the Dolls' DVD features the gayest and most fabulous bonus commentary ever with 'Gotta Get off this Merry-Go-Round: Sex, Dolls and Showtunes,' a 49-minute documentary. Bruce Vilanch, Michael Musto, Alonso Duralde, Ted Casablanca and Barbara Parkins herself go deep into why this movie is so beloved by the gays. A-W-E-S-O-M-E.

What We Missed the Most: The rest of the fellas who usually join us.

Most Memorable Moments
1. Sitting in the sun in shorts in near-70 degree weather in late November, three days in a row, with rolling hills and black walnut orchards as far as the eye could see.
2. Everyone dancing in the kitchen to the entire 'Priscilla Queen of the Desert' album, with random lip-syncing.
3. No visits to the Emergency Room. No broken bones like last year.

Number of Times We Said, "Gawwwd, we love this": Lost count.


Special thanks to our pal John for lending us his lovely, lovely cabin for the fifth year in a row.


* No, I'm not kidding
** If you're hugely homosexual

 


Monday 27 November 2006

'Ask a Gay Man' Is Real, Bitches! (Says Gay Man)



I recently wrote about William Sledd, the 23-year-old gay guy from Kentucky whose 'Ask a Gay Man' videos happen to be this season's runaway YouTube hit. As I said then, some people wonder if he's a viral marketing plant for The GAP (for whom he works) -- a made-up character à la LonelyGirl15 -- or if he's really just a young gay man who likes to give fashion advice to the needy.

In a poll on this blog, 48 percent of readers say he's phoney, that his shtick is a sales gimmick:



C'mon, people, William is the real deal. He's an adorable, fabulously gay young man -- with a viewpoint. Even Nina Garcia would have to agree. My arch-nemesis, the puckish Dan Renzi shared his take with me this weekend: "The brilliance of William is that he talks about shopping at Express For Men like it's some big fashion insider's secret. And he really means it. I love it."

William Sledd responds to the "phoney" rumors in a follow-up video, addressing whether or not he's really gay (duh!), gets paid by The GAP or not (he wishes!), and why he talks the way he does (it's just who he is). Most importantly, he outlines his credentials for doling out fashion tips. For that, you have to click:

'The Truth About William Sledd'






Wednesday 22 November 2006

My Gay Gratitude List




Here are some random thoughts about the people and things I'm thankful for this Thanksgiving. Feel free to share yours in the comments.
-- My husband, he makes me laugh everyday and, after 18 years, still hugs and kisses me every time I walk in the door. (That sounds like a little thing; it's not)

-- My family, my friends, for their unconditional love, general smart-assery and for making me laugh at myself

-- People who read Worth Repeating, you don't even know how much I appreciate that you take the time to stop by and read what's here; and thanks, too, to my colleagues for allowing me to write a big gay blog on AOL

-- My docs and physical therapists for pulling, stretching and manipulating me back together after breaking my arm LAST Thanksgiving

-- People who work to promote peace and justice

-- The mid-term elections and the balance it brings back to our government

-- Neil Patrick Harris, Lance, T.R. Knight, Michelle Rodriguez and all the celebs who have come out this year, even if it wasn't always on their timetable

-- The New Jersey Supreme Court for saying that gay relationships are equal to straight ones

-- 'Brothers and Sisters' on ABC, for treating its gay characters like normal people which is a rarity on network TV (see 'The Class')

-- Mike Jones, for his bravery in exposing hypocrisy in fundamentalist Christianity, and Lane Hudson, for exposing hypocrisy and cover-up on Capitol Hill

-- My comfort stuff: coffee, cashmere, my iPod, the Duplex Diner, and good moisturizers

-- Wentworth Miller, Chris Meloni and Patrick Dempsey, for giving me a rich fantasy life

-- And, of course, Borat for showing how loving and tolerant Americans are, and for introducing the lime-colored body-thong for men, which is super hot


Happy Thanksgiving, everyone. I probably won't be posting again until Monday. Off to a cabin in the woods with friends, an annual tradition that involves lots of cooking, musical theater on DVD, Cosmos, group facials and fireside girl talk. I hope your holiday is spent in a similarly loving environment.

 

Your Gay Guide to Black Friday

You know that $687 billion that the gay community supposedly has to spend in the coming year? Well, you can make a statement in the way you spend all that money by supporting businesses that believe in equality for gay, lesbian, bi and trans people.

HRC just released 'Buying for Equality,' a new guide listing hundreds of popular American brands ranked on their company’s GLBT inclusiveness, and broken down into easily distinguishable purchasing categories.

Check it out, download it, keep a copy handy for the next time you hit the mall, fill up the tank or plan your next vacation.

 


Tuesday 21 November 2006

Worst Lip-Sync Ever: The Straight-Gay Divide


I'm sorry, but there are some gay talents that straight men should rarely attempt. Lip-syncing is one of them.

Take a look at the difference between straight and gay men in these two video examples.

In the first, straight dude gives what I assume to be his best attempt at Celine Dion's 'My Heart Will Go On,' a love offering for a lucky girl named Sara. There's no other way to say this ... it's painfully wrong on many levels.

To keep the competition somewhat even, in the second example I offer up a gay man also NOT in drag, who has -- dare I say it? -- FABULOUS lip-sync abilities and kicks straight guy's ass.

We own this one, fellas, just accept it.

'My Heart Will Go On' -- performed by a straight dude



'And I Am Tellin You (I'm Not Going)' -- performed by WonderRobbie




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He Said, He Said: Cipel Calls McGreevey a Liar



Exlusive Video Interview on WCBS-TV

Former New Jersey governor James McGreevey claims that he had a two-year relationship with Golan Cipel, the man he says threatened him with extortion which lead to the governor coming out as gay and resigning from office.

Golan Cipel begs to differ with James McGreevey. On his Web site (which is handsomely designed and well written, by the way), Cipel says "nearly everything in [McGreevey's] book that pertains to me and my relationship with him is a complete fabrication."

Now Cipel, who says that he's straight, has given his first television interview since the scandal broke. He says that he and McGreevey never had a relationship, but that the governor sexually harrassed him. Revisiting McGreevey's former home, Cipel tells a WCBS-TV reporter:

"And I just remember holding back here and saying what's going on. Again he pushed me on the chest back into the bedroom. I was in shock and I fell. And there was just this crazy look in his eyes. Didn't care. Tried to struggle with me. Tried to kiss me. I just remember holding my head and saying, 'No. Stop.' Fighting with him. And I moved to the other side of the bed here. And he was there where you stand. And I wanted to get out. But he's close to the door. I just remember wanting to ask him so many questions, but wanting to leave as fast as possible. And he said don't ever repeat this to anybody. Then I asked him, 'Why did you think I was gay?" And he said, 'Everybody's a little bit gay.'"

McGreevey released a written statement in response to Cipel's interview:
"I stand behind the truth and accuracy of the entirety of the book. The book is an honest and painful story of the dangers of leading a divided life. The principal lesson is the need to be honest with one's family and friends, but most importantly with one's self. My relationship with Mr. Cipel lasted for a number of months. It was entirely consensual and I wish that he only finds peace in his life."

It's hard to know what went on behind closed doors when two parties have conflicting accounts. If I had to go by my gut? I believe Cipel. I think the power of the closet did a number on McGreevey. We know he lied to his wife and to his constituents, giving me no real reason to believe him now. Cipel comes off way more authentic, if you ask me.


Click to See Video

 


Monday 20 November 2006

Amy Sedaris: The Hostess With the Neurosis



Funny lady Amy Sedaris has written this season's must-read book about entertaining, 'I Like You: Hospitality Under the Influence.'  It's a cookbook, it's a home entertainment manual, and it's a collection of twisted comedic observations that only Amy can cook up.
"A party doesn't necessarily have to be a big to-do. A party can be as simple as a few people getting together for conversation and snacks. As my guests leave even my most simplest parties, I consistently hear the same thing: 'That was the best time I ever had,' and it's always me saying it."

When AOL caught up with Amy about her entertaining prowess, she generously offered up her views on things like the sexiest food, making fake cakes, and why it's OK to check out the medicine cabinet when you go to someone's house for dinner. (C'mon, you know you do it.)

See photos, hear Amy's party talk: Phoning It In ... With Amy Sedaris
Read an excerpt: 'I Like You: Hospitality Under the Influence'


Got any good party or dinner party stories -- you know, ones that include great embarrassment or monumental catastrophe? Let's hear 'em!


Fox News Dabbles in Oxymoron

"Fox News Channel might air two episodes of a "Daily Show"-like program with a decidedly nonliberal bent on Saturday nights in late January, with the possibility that it could become a weekly show." (Read the Article: Fox News Eyes Right-Leaning 'Daily Show')

I thought Fox News *was* a right-leaning 'Daily Show' ?


Thursday 16 November 2006

Poll: 47 Percent of Gays Not Out to Their Doctor



In a poll on AOL Gay and Lesbian, we asked readers if they are out to their primary care physician. Nearly half of the 7,000+ people who responded said "No."



My question is, why not? I'm kind of blown away by this number. It's really important for your doctor to know who is in and out of your nooks and crannies.

I'd be interested to hear people's stories about coming out (or not) to doctors, and what the barriers are to doing so. Is it fear about confidentiality? Plain ol' embarrassment about sex? Are women less likely to feel safe coming out? Post a comment and let's talk about it.


If you're looking for tips on what to say or how to find an understanding physician, check out this video from HRC, the Mautner Project, the Gay and Lesbian Medical Association, and the National Coalition of LGBT Health.



More Resources:
How Coming Out Can Affect Your Healthcare (Metro Weekly)
Should You Tell Your Doctor You're Bi? (Bi Magazine)
Transgender: Talking to Your Doctor (Firelily.com)

 


What Was Your First Car?

Mine: 1966 Pontiac Tempest



The one I had was white with a red vinyl interior, prompting my smart-ass friends to call it the Pontiac Tampax, which they shouted from the windows of their Camaros and Corvettes.
 
I didn't care. I was a 16-year-old high school kid with wheels. And it's WAY easier to make out in the roomy back seat of a 1966 Pontiac Tempest than in a Corvette. Trust me.

When I was 18, my boyfriend bought me this nifty 1972 Pontiac LeMans convertible (actual photo). This was a direct result of having made out in the back seat of my 1966 Tempest.



What about you?

 


Gay Vets Love a Parade


photo: averny.tripod.com


A friend shared a copy of the letter sent around by Sgt. Denny Meyer, head of the New York chapter of American Veterans for Equal Rights (AVER), a GLBT veterans association. Meyer shares his reactions about marching in the NYC Veterans Day Parade last week.

My pal, who is part of the fabulous Lesbian and Gay Big Apple Corps and marched with the vets, told me that Cardinal Edward Eagen and a priest were sitting on chairs curbside in front of St. Patrick's as the parade passed by. "The two stood and clapped as we marched playing 'Rock the Boat.'  (The front of St. Patrick's is usually a ghost town during Pride parades, blocked off to prevent protests) -- so it's a first for us!"

Here's what Sgt. Denny had to say:
To: AVER Chapter Presidents' list:

I am so grateful and proud to have again had the opportunity this year to organize and lead our contingent in the NYC Veterans Day Parade.

This year, with a block long contingent, we knocked their socks off with visibility.  Our lead marcher, in full dress-blue Navy uniform, was Petty Officer First Class Rhonda Davis (honorably discharged for homosexuality this past summer) carrying the American Flag. Behind her was a 92 year old WWII Vet Major Willet Fields who insisted on walking the entire parade, bless him. Behind him, I waved the Rainbow Flag from side to side in front of the AVER-NY banner and vets. And then came the band: The Lesbian and Gay Big Apple Corps -60 strong stretching down an entire city block- with dancers, baton tossers, Rainbow Color Guard, and band playing Americana. The band is dressed in white with cowboy hats and bright Rainbow sashes. Oh My!

As we passed the reviewing stand, at 42nd Street near Times Square, where the homophobic United War Veterans Council organizer was at the microphone announcing groups, my heart nearly jumped out of my chest hearing him say: American Veterans For Equal Rights and the Lesbian and Gay Big Apple Corps!

It didn't happen by accident of course; it took a whole year of work, massive complaints to the Mayor's Office about the bigoted attempt to pull us out ofthe parade last year, and paranoid vigilance against them pulling the same dirty trick this year. I got the Mayor's staff verynervous, so this year we marched without a word of harassment. Last year, we had about 20 marchers but the bigotry provoked me; hence this year's block-long very visible and sparkling contingent.

Hugs,

Sgt Denny



See more photos from the parade:


photo: averny.tripod.com

 


New 'Dreamgirls' Music Video

My Vegas blogger buddy Some Like It Scott sent me this little missive about a ne'er-seen-before music video he's hosting from the new 'Dreamgirls' movie:
"It’s the first one released for the movie and will only be on key Web sites and clubs this weekend. Feel free to tell the world about it, but unlike that dreaded case of herpes you got, tell them where you got this video, please … www.somelikeitscott.com."

Click to See 'One Night Only'



Consider yourselves told. And thanks, Scott, for spreading rumors about my past. People also say Dorothy Parker was talking about me when she said, "That woman speaks eighteen languages, and can't say No in any of them," but these are lies, all lies.

'Dreamgirls' Preview Clip
'Dreamgirls' Fan Blog
'Dreamgirls' Official Site


A Blog-Eat-Blog World for Perez

Gawker gawks at Perez Hilton getting served with a court summons for stealing photos from paparazzi sites, and spills the beans about his VH1 show getting nixed before it even got off the ground: 'Perez and the Terrible, Horrible, No Good, Very Bad Day.'

Plus, Best Week Ever skewers Perez's newfound self-appointed role of outing celebs: "He's like Joseph McCarthy, but for gays."

Watch 'BWE Lances Perez Hilton':

 

Previously:  Gay Celebs Outed!

 

Reader Mail: 'Old' + Gay= ?


I received this e-mail from a reader today:
"I hate the gay community. Since I am 56, I rarely meet people any more. I am thinking about going back into the closet. Or going straight. I think it would be easier than getting all this rejection in Seattle."



Wednesday 15 November 2006

Reactions: George Clooney as the Sexiest Man Alive




People magazine named George Clooney as 2006 Sexiest Man Alive.

Following are reactions from six friends, plus my mom, with whom I had IM exchanges this morning to discuss this important development.
35 year-old Gay Guy:
George Clooney last year -- no. Clooney this year -- yes. Looks better than he ever has. PEOPLE's list is pretty good though. I'm just glad they didn't have Joey Lawrence -- CREEPY. I like this one from their global list  International Males: JAMES MCAVOY.


24-year-old Straight Guy
Ew, he's old. kjkjkjkjkjkjkjkjkkjk. I'm not sure im qualified to answer that question. If i was a gay man, which as of right now I'm not, I'd go with Jack from 'Lost' or Tim Gunn.


36-year-old Lesbian
Hellooooo I'm gay!


30-year-old Straight Guy
Considering he's the only man to actually achieve gay-dream status in my subconscious, I'll believe it.


27-year-old Gay Guy
WTF? That pic is horrible. His face is so fat.
Gayest Editor Ever: So there's no way you'd sleep with George Clooney?
27-year-old Gay Guy: Oh, hell no.


My Mom
He's up there, but I am going to have to say Mario [Lopez] has it all over him (and everybody else). He has charisma, a great body and THOSE DIMPLES. (Maybe that should be "charisma, A GREAT BODY AND THOSE DIMPLES!")

Number two would be Patrick Dempsey. Matthew McCona-babe is still up there. George is in the top 5 because he is so charming and smart. (Nothing like a smart man. How did you [gay] guys miss this one?)

Brad Pitt and Tom Cruise aren't even on the radar. (Dumping your wife puts you on that other list).


29-year-old Gay Guy
I don’t know for sure if George Clooney is the sexiest man alive, but I wouldbe willing to sample the goods in order to give you a more complete analysis.  Actually, to be completely sure, I think it might be best to have a side by side (as it were) comparison with Clooney and Hugh Jackman.  Again, I’m more than happy to field test the theory.  

I will also say that Clooney is one of my standard fall backs.  He’s a grown up, and I find that endlessly appealing.  He wears a tux as well as he wears a swimsuit, and he gets me all tingly when he talks about what it really means to be a liberal.


And you?

Lesbians Aren't Cheap

From Washington Blade online today:

 

Tuesday 14 November 2006

Gay Celebrities Outed!



PerezHilton.com


Is anyone else even SLIGHTLY bothered by the latest gay craze: Blogging celebrities over the head until they come out? I hate it. If you clicked on the headline above -- out of habit or because you think you're supposed to -- you're part of the problem.

What I can't decide is if the new outing tactic is merely the latest evidence of society's obsession with tabloid-style news/infotainment, or if it is helping to force a whole new gay paradigm for a not-too-distant future when there's no such thing as outing. In other words, is outing taking us a step closer to a time when talking about the gay love life of whomever is no longer even "outing," it's just another matter-of-fact element of who they are?

I can see a case being made for the latter. If we gay people say there's no shame in being gay, why should it be defamatory to call someone gay? And therefore, outing isn't hurting anyone, right? I do believe that day will come, but I don't think outing people Enquirer-style is how we will get there.

When, where and how to come out remains a very personal decision, and most people believe there's a certain amount of respect for privacy that should be accorded to when, where and how people disclose their sexuality (or not). But what if you're in the public eye? The recent rash of outings raises the issue of whether public personalities are allowed to maintain any privacy when it comes to their sexuality, or if they forfeit it completely in today's information age.

My answer: It depends.

Anti-gay crusaders or politicians are mostly fair game. I say mostly because even in politics, there is nuance. For example, do we out an elected official who is married, mostly votes with the gay community, but is spotted on the arm of a male friend in a gay bar? He's not hurting the gay community, so why is it our job to out him? Ted Haggard, on the other hand, preached against gay people six days a week, and on the seventh day got down and dirty with a male escort. Haggard's hypocrisy begged to be exposed; it's wholly appropriate to out and exploit his behavior.

It gets a lot more murky when it comes to celebrities. I find the current celebrity outing craze more than a little nauseating, and yet even the mainstream media seems to be embracing blogger Perez Hilton's new take-no-prisoners style of outing entertainers. (See today's news: 'Knight, Harris Outings a Product of the Times.'

Perez Hilton (real name: Mario Levanderia) takes credit for outing Lance Bass and, to some extent, Neil Patrick Harris. Perez's newfound outing specialty even prompted Reichen Lehmkuhl (Lance's boyfriend) to coin a new term, "lanced," meaning outing someone via the media.

"Lance" is defined in the dictionary as "prick or cut open with a lancet or sharp object," which is probably about how it feels when Perez is Photoshopping smartass commentary onto a photo of you because your name happens to be Neil Patrick Harris, even though you're doing nothing more than walking down the street with a cup of Starbucks coffee minding your ownbusiness.

Perez claims that his actions are motivated by his dedication to the fight for gay equality:
"Today [the day that Neil Patrick Harris said he's gay] is another step towards full equality under the law for gays and lesbians, their relationships and their families. We are so proud (despite the naysayers) in having a hand in bringing about change. We've said it before and we will say it again: the closet no longer exists if you are a celebrity or a politician!"

In that particular blog post, Perez went on to publish his hit list, listing 11 celebrities by name whom he plans to harrass out of the closet. None of the names was an Earth-shattering surprise. Reading the list, I couldn't help but think: Is this really how we are going to win "full equality under the law" -- by blog-stalking, humiliating and making fun of actors because they aren't as out as we want them to be?

Is the closet an awfully confining space in which to live? Yes. Is it great that Lance, T.R. Knight, Neil Patrick Harris are out? Yes. Do I want more and more celebrities to come out? Yes. Every gay person who is out helps make our community more visible. But unless a celebrity is virulently anti-gay, I don't believe they should be forced out of the closet via open-season witch hunts for no other reason than because we say so.

Artists should come out when they are ready, and be allowed to maintain some bit of separation between their work and their private lives if they so choose. I don't believe artists should be subjected to the whims of bloggers who use gossip and mean-spirited bitchiness to drive traffic totheir Web sites to increase their advertising revenue and to build up their own celebrity on the backs of people who have done nothing to deserve it.

But that's just me.

Monday 13 November 2006

Is 'Ask a Gay Man' This Season's lonelygirl15?



Take an overnight YouTube sensation involving a 23-year-old gay guy offering flamboyantly candid fashion advice via a homemade video series called 'Ask a Gay Man,'

-- add 800,000 online viewings in 30 days of an episode about body-appropriate jean styles,

-- toss in a dash of conspiracy theories about the significance of said gay guy's job at the GAP and ...

What do you get?

William Sledd: Is He for Real, or Is He a Marketing Gimmick?

It's hard to know what's real these days. YouTube phenomenon lonelygirl15 was exposed as a fraud several weeks ago after amassing 15 million views of her teen-angst-ridden video blog. Her realistic confessions turned out to be the creation of a couple of California filmmaker fellas and an unknown actress.

Now skeptics wonder if Sledd's sissy-fabulosa online persona (think Carson Kressley and Nathan Lane's love child) can be taken at face value, or if he's the ingenius creation of some marketing firm for the biggest name in jeans.

Either way, 14,000 people have subscribed to Sledd's video uploads, meaning that the gayest man since Paul Lynde has 14,000 YouTube fans and counting.

"Hey Bitches It's William from Paducah, KY! I'm 23 and well thats it!"

Sounds real to me. You?







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Election 2007: Republican Blame Gayme

Anti-abortion activist Jill Stanek is upset. In a column for WorldNetDaily, she cites pro-life movement setbacks this election cycle and bemoans the defeat of the GOP-controlled House and Senate. The Republicans let her down, she says: "... As I reviewed and processed [the election results], I became angry."

And who do you think she blames? The gays, of course. More specifically, gay Republicans.

"We learned at the end of the campaign that GOP leadership is peppered with homosexual legislators and top staff. The homosexual lobby is as militantly pro-abortion as the abortion lobby, evil twins with the same goal: illicit sex with no consequences ...

... Nor may we have heard all there is to know about homosexuals in GOP leadership. For the first time in my life I read gay websites this week, which I'm sure will amuse them, and if some of the GOP names they're outing as homosexual actually are, wow."


Look, Jill, if all the closeted gay republicans are good enough for Dennis Hastert and the rest of the boys who are in on the homosexual pepper thing you mention, they should be good enough for you.

And the idea of you cruising gay websites this week looking to see who the latest closeted gay republicans being outed are? Why yes, that does "amuse" me ... in, you know, the same way Dante's 'Divine Comedy' is hysterically funny.


Read Stanek's Full Article: '11/7: Day of Disaster for Pro-Lifers?'


Friday 10 November 2006

Inclusion in Mexico City; Exclusion in Virginia



In Mexico City:
A bill was passed yesterday legalizing same-sex civil unions in the Mexican capital. It doesn't apply only to gay couples:
"[The law] also empowers platonic relationships, such as an elderly person and a care-giver or two roommates, to inherit pensions and property and share financial responsibilities.

Participants sign a legal contract, which either party can dissolve simply by sending a letter to the city government.

'We're creating new rights for new realities,' said legislator Enrique Perez Correa, one of the bill's two sponsors."  Read the Story

In Virginia:
Voters on Tuesday approved the Marshall/Newman Amendment, which will amend the state constitution so no one, not even straight people, can enter into a legal agreement of any kind if it is meant to recognize a relationship not involving a legally married man and wife.

You know that medical power of attorney you and your partner signed? It's not worth the paper it's written on. Learn More at The Commonwealth Coalition


Is Marriage Doomed?
Writer Julie Enszer has a piece in today's Washington Blade where she posits that by exluding gays, the very institution of marriage is destined to die:
"Societal institutions at the height of their power are flexible and inclusive. If others want to join, the institution can easily absorb and 'normalize' people into it. Powerful institutions welcome newcomers; they want people to participate in them to strengthen their influence and impact."


Margarita, anyone?

'Confessions of an Angry Hustler'



Radar Online has an interview today with escort Mike Jones, the man who felled pastor Ted Haggard.

A few choice excerpts:


[Is Haggard a ] bottom, or power bottom?
Well, let me just say ... yes, bottom.

What turned Reverend Haggard on the most about you?
I think my body, for sure. Also, it probably didn't hurt that I'm pretty well-endowed.

Reverend James Dobson, of Focus on the Family, basically said he didn't have time to help save this man, who had been one of his closest friends—

Dobson doesn't want any connection with him. Since this happened, lots of people have asked me if I think Dobson is gay, too. My answer to that is yes.

Was Reverend Haggard kinky in bed?

I'm not going to comment too much on kinkiness, but I can say that he certainly did enjoy having sex with me. 

Would you call him vanilla?

Well, for the most part, I would use the term vanilla. But I guess every once in a while you could throw some chocolate in.  

Did he ever kiss you or act affectionately, or did he restrict his visits to sex?

No, we kissed.

That's very sweet.

[LAUGHS] Well, I aim to please.

So no one from the Human Rights Campaign or The Gay and Lesbian Victory Fund has even called you? At the very least they could invite you to a chic cocktail party with David Geffen.
I'd be happier if they bought me a loaf of bread and some peanut butter.

Click to read 'Confessions of an Angry Hustler'

Then, tell me:
1) After reading the interview, do you have more or less (or unchanged) sympathy for Mike Jones and the personal sacrifice he made in coming forward?

2) Do you think the gay community should be doing more to embrace Mike Jones for outing Haggard? 

 


Thursday 9 November 2006

Teen Fights Small-Town Homophobia In 'We Belong'

'We Belong' is a short film about homophobia and C.J., a rural gay teen who transforms from victim to an empowered young man who devises a creative, non-violent way to take on his abusers.

In addition to C.J., and another student who was routinely harrassed and terrorized on school grounds, the documentary stars a principal who was part of the problem, a school district that did nothing, and an amazing mom who cared.

Filmmaker (and my longtime pal) Joe Wilson has entered the 12-minute film in the 'Seeds of Tolerance' video competition. Please check it out and if you like it, vote for his movie. If it wins, you will be helping to get Joe and C.J.'s message of tolerance out to the world.

Click for Details, Watch Film:


One other quick fact: 
The film features the awesome music of transgender singer/songwriter Namoli Brennet. I totally heart her folk / punk / pop music stylings and encourage you to explore her sound at http://namolibrennet.com.


Please Fund: No Bigot Left Behind

This is a comment that was left on my blog. I didn't do anything to it. Readers post this stuff; I just copy and paste.
 

"Dear  Mr. BUSH , I just want to tnankyou for not allowing gay marrage to be put into law. AS A CHRIST I belive that God crated man and woman to be as one.

we are at war to saver our country along with are lifesl But were do any of you think of saving your soul THeis cournty was stated by our for fathers, And put into print that a marrege..is between a man and a women,and not between a man and, man or women anwomen. if the gay marrege law is pass what is next i"    -- Comment from verybigman53

"What is next" you ask? Gee, I don't know, verybigman53 ... Perhaps a Speak & Spell for every American?


Bush Snaps: A Post-Election Giggle

This made me LOL, ROFLMAO and, well, you get the picture.

Headline on Proceed At Your Own Risk: 

'UNABLE TO FACE REALITY, HE SNAPPED'



photo: http://www.funpic.hu via Proceed at Your Own Risk

 


Wednesday 8 November 2006

Government Looking More Like Its People



It's no secret that Congress is too white, too male, too Christian, and too straight.

The U.S. is a big country, a diverse country, a country which wouldn't be hurt by having representives in government who more accurately reflect all of us.

This election cycle, some cool firsts give me a bit of hope that we're inching -- inching -- toward that.

First woman to serve as speaker of the house: Nancy Pelosi

First Muslim elected to U.S. Congress: Keith Ellison

First Democratic Socialist elected to U.S. Senate: Bernie Sanders

First Jewish governor of New York: Eliot Spitzer (* see correction below)

First African-American governor of Massachusetts: Deval Patrick

And, according to the Gay and Lesbian Victory Fund, 67 openly gay candidates were elected to state and local offices (more than ever before), including several gay firsts:

--Patricia Todd, who will represent District 54 in the Alabama State House.  Todd is the first openly gay person ever elected to any office in the state.

--Kathy Webb, who will represent District 37 in the Arkansas State House.  Webb is the first openly gay person ever elected to any office in the state.

--Henry Fernandez,who won a seat on the Lawrence Township School Board, making him the first openly gay person ever elected to any office in Indiana

--Al McAffrey, who will represent District 88 in the Oklahoma State House.  McAffrey is the first openly gay person ever elected to the Oklahoma state legislature.

--Jolie Justus, who will represent District 10 in the Missouri State Senate.  Justus is the first openly gay state senator in Missouri history.

--Ed Murray, who will represent District 43 in the Washington State Senate.  Murray, a former state representative, is the first openly gay state senator in Washington history. 

--Matt McCoy, who becomes the first openly gay candidate ever elected to the Iowa legislature.  McCoy, a sitting state senator, came out during his last term.

--Judge Virginia Linder will join Rives Kistler on the Oregon Supreme Court, making it the first state ever to have two openly gay Supreme Court justices, according to preliminary results.


* Correction: Eliot Spitzer is the second Jewish governor elected in the state of New York. 74 years ago, Herbert Lehman was elected governor. He served four terms, 1933-1942.

Election Results 2006: What It Means for Gays



This election was as much about getting rid of people as it was about voting in new blood.

Gay=Beastiality Rick Santorum: Gone.

Gay Marriage Super-Meany John Hostettler: Gone.

Church+State=Good Katharine Harris: Gone.

To piggyback on AmericaBlog's fab photo, DING! DONG! All these witches are now dead.



Pardon me if my complete and utter joy cannot be tamed.

Meanwhile ...

Here's a great overview from the National Gay and Lesbian Task Force on election 2006 as it relates to the gay, lesbian, bi and trans community.

Feel free to leave a comment, especially about these pesky anti-gay bills that were passed. Activists I spoke with at last night's GLBT election night party were all saying how great it is that even though we lost on all but one of the anti-gay ballot measures, we're losing by a smaller margin than previously. I know that's supposed to make me feel better. It doesn't.

FROM THE TASK FORCE:

Election 2006: Support for Same-Sex Marriage Grows Significantly

Arizona Delivers First-ever Win in Defeating Anti-Marriage Amendment

Races Coast to Coast Show Supporting Fairness for Gay Families Is a Plus; Aligning With the Extreme Christian Right a Big Minus


WASHINGTON, Nov. 8 - For the first time, a proposed constitutional amendment to ban any form of legal recognition for same-sex couples was defeated, and 39 percent of voters opposed the bans, a significant increase over the 33 percent who opposed similar ballot measures in 2004.

As important, election results in House, Senate and gubernatorial races coast to coast show that supporting fairness for gay and lesbian families is not a liability, while aligning with the extreme Christian right is.

Anti-marriage constitutional amendments


Anti-marriage amendments were on the ballot in eight states and were approved in seven of the eight, but by significantly lower margins than in past years. In 2004, there were 11 anti-marriage amendments on the November ballot, and in only two of them did opposition top 40 percent: Oregon (43 percent) and Michigan (41 percent). Early this morning, five out of the eight states topped 40 percent, including Arizona, Colorado, South Dakota, Virginia and Wisconsin.

"It's clear that fear-mongering around same-sex marriage by the GOP and the extreme Christian right is fizzling out," said Matt Foreman, executive director of the National Gay and Lesbian Task Force.  "It doesn't have the juice it had just two years ago - people are getting sick of it."

Two states - South Dakota and Virginia - did far better than pundits expected. In South Dakota the margin was 48 percent to 52 percent and was attributed to a strong campaign run with meager resources by South Dakotans Against Discrimination and its campaign manager Jon Hoadley, and a strong "live and let live" ethos among South Dakotans.

In Virginia , the margin was 43 percent to 57 percent, a tie with the best-showing state in 2004 (Oregon). Assumptions that the margin would be higher reflected a failure to understand how much the Old Dominion has changed and underestimating the strength of the "Vote No on #1" campaign managed by Claire Guthrie Gastañaga.

In Colorado, meanwhile, with 60 percent of the precincts reporting voters were rejecting a measure to extend domestic partnership rights to same-sex couples and their families. The outcome of the measure remained uncertain due to widespread delays in the tabulation of votes in Denver and Boulder.

Historic win in Arizona


Arizona became the first state to reject an anti-marriage constitutional amendment, by a margin of 51 percent to 49 percent. Through today, voters in 28 states have voted on marriage amendments since 1998, with Arizona being the only state to reject an amendment.

"It is always wrong to put basic rights up for a popular vote and it is nearly impossible for any minority to protect itself when that happens. But today, in Arizona the impossible happened," said Foreman. "This sweet victory was due to an exceptional campaign run by 'No on 107' and its campaign chair Cindy Jordan and 'Arizona Together' and its campaign chair Kyrsten Sinema, and the hundreds of volunteers whoworked on the campaign."

The No on 107 campaign in Southern Arizona was extremely successful at using messages that openly and honestly shared how same-sex couples in the state would be harmed by the amendment. And, Arizona Together, the statewide campaign, was also extremely successful at showing how broad anti-marriage amendments that also outlaw domestic partner benefits and civil unions harm everyone, including heterosexual couples. Combined, the messages of both campaigns were able to convince a majority of Arizona voters that marriage discrimination has no place in their constitution.

"Arizona has a special place in history as the first state to reject an anti-gay marriage ballot measure. We know it will not be the last," said Foreman.

Pro-gay candidates triumph over those aligned with extreme Christian right


The influence of the extreme Christian right took a major hit this election as voters elected a number of pro-gay candidates and rejected some of the nation's most vocal anti-gay candidates.

"Across the nation, voters rejected candidates who aligned themselves with the extreme Christian right wing agenda and repudiated Karl Rove's divisive strategy of relying on the GOP's base of so-called 'values voters' and divisive wedge issues to win elections," said Foreman. "Voters didn't fall for it this time. The extreme Christian right has been revealed as the Achilles heel of the Republican Party in races across the country." (Individual races are detailed below.)

Defeat of Santorum and Hostettler in Pennsylvania and Indiana overjoys lesbian, gay, bisexual and transgender community


Voters sent packing two of the most anti-gay members of Congress: Pennsylvania Sen. Rick Santorum, the third-ranking GOP leader in the Senate who compared same-sex marriage to "man on child, man on dog" sex, lost his seat to Democrat challenger Bob Casey, and in Indiana, Democratic challenger Brad Ellsworth defeated Republican Rep. John Hostettler, one of the House's anti-gay leaders. Hostettler, who was elected in the GOP sweep of 1994, worked to slash funding for AIDS programs and drafted the Marriage Protection Act, designed to prevent federal courts from ordering states to recognize same-sex marriages permitted in other states. In this year's campaign, he ran a campaign ad that warned that if he lost and House leadership changed hands, "(Nancy) Pelosi will then put in motion her radical plan to advance the homosexual agenda, led by Barney Frank, reprimanded by the House after paying for sex with a man who ran a gay brothel out of Congressman Frank's home." The statement about Frank was factually incorrect.

"We are thrilled, ecstatic and overjoyed that Rick Santorum has been thrashed at the polls. His extreme and gratuitous homophobia will no longer pollute the Senate. Good riddance," Foreman said. "Ditto for Hostettler in the House. To him we offer an equally enthusiastic good-bye."

Pro-gay gubernatorial candidates victorious in Wisconsin, Michigan and Ohio


In Wisconsin, Ohio, Michigan and Oregon, pro-gay gubernatorial candidates triumphed over candidates closely aligned with the extreme Christian right.

In Wisconsin, where an anti-marriage amendment was on the ballot, Democratic incumbent Gov. Jim Doyle defeated Republican Mark Green. Republicans, who dominate the state Legislature, put the marriage amendment on the ballot in a transparent attempt to influence the gubernatorial contest. Doyle campaigned against the marriage amendment while Green strongly supported it. Polls leading up to the vote showed the two candidates consistently within two to three points of each other.

"Jim Doyle's convincing win proves that the right-wing attempt to win the governor's mansion by attacking gay families failed and failed miserably," said Foreman. "People who believe in justice and equality owe a lot to Governor Doyle for standing up for gay people so consistently and so courageously."

In Ohio, Democrat Ted Strickland beat Republican Ken Blackwell by a wide margin. Blackwell is one of the most virulently anti-gay elected officials in the nation, a chief advocate of Ohio's 2004 anti-marriage constitutional amendment and an outspoken opponent of Cincinnati's recent nondiscrimination law. Strickland, on the other hand, voted against the Federal Marriage Amendment as a member of Congress and opposed the 2004 Ohio state constitutional amendment banning same-sex partner recognition of any kind.

"We saw Republicans and Christian right extremists trying to use an anti-gay family amendment to help win Ohio for Bush-Cheney in 2004. Yet in 2006 Ohio voters have rejected the politics of division and elected a moderate who opposes scapegoating gay and lesbian families for political gain."

InMichigan, Democratic incumbent Jennifer Granholm defeated Republican challenger Dick DeVos. Gay and reproductive rights both played a role in the race. In mid-September, the Triangle Foundation, a statewide LGBT organization, linked DeVos to a $10,000 gift to the American Family Association, which is leading a boycott against Ford Motor Company because it advertises in gay publications. Because the financial woes of the big three auto companies have created financial hardships for the state, this received widespread publicity. Granholm picked up additional support through a series of ads telling that while she personally opposed abortion, she supported a woman's right to choose while DeVos opposed abortion in all cases, including instances of rape or incest. Both candidates opposed a ballot initiative to end affirmative action in the state.

"In 2004, DeVos supported an amendment which stripped thousands of public sector employees in Michigan of employer provided health coverage. Then we learned that DeVos' family is supporting the boycott of Ford Motor Company. Michigan voters have rejected this anti-gay zealot who puts his own bigotry ahead of the needs of Michigan families and workers," Foreman said.

In Oregon, voters re-elected Gov. Ted Kulongoski , one of the most pro-gay governors in the nation, defeating Rox Saxton. During the campaign, Kulongoski strongly supported civil unions and nondiscrimination legislation. Saxton, on the other hand, openly courted the support of the vehemently anti-gay Oregon Family Council and said he would veto any bill protecting gay people from discrimination.

"Oregonians re-elected the most pro-gay sitting governor in the nation, beating an opponent who courted and received the enthusiastic support of anti-gay forces in the state. Kulongoski was re-elected without wavering - and in fact, continually reaffirming - his commitment to civil unions," said Foreman.

Nation's first pro-marriage governors elected by wide margins


In Massachusetts and New York, pro-marriage equality gubernatorial candidates Deval Patrick and Eliot Spitzer were elected by landslides. This is the first time pro-marriage equality candidates have been elected governor of any state.

"Massachusetts and New York voters have elected in overwhelming landslides the first two governors ever who support marriage equality forsame-sex couples. These historic victories show that support for full equality for our families is not a negative but something voters are willing to embrace enthusiastically," Foreman said.

Pro-equality local measures pass in Michigan and Oregon


In Ferndale, Mich., residents overwhelmingly approved nondiscrimination protections based on sexual orientation by nearly three to one. Ferndale voters rejected a similar ordinance by just 117 votes in February 2000. This campaign was the third attempt since 1991 to pass a human rights ordinance barring such discrimination in housing, employment, and public accommodation. And more than 60 percent of voters in Corvallis, Ore., voted to amend their city charter to provide equal protection and nondiscrimination for all, inclusive of sexual orientation and gender identity or expression.

"The campaigns in Ferndale and Corvallis show the depth of local support for nondiscrimination protections for lesbian, gay, bisexual and transgender people," said Foreman. "We applaud Ferndale Alliance Valuing Our Residents and Inclusive Corvallis for coordinating these victorious campaigns, which has sent a resounding a message to those who seek to target our community that hatred and intolerance have no place in Ferndale or Corvallis."   (National Gay and Lesbian Task Force)




Tuesday 7 November 2006

Election Watch 2006



HRC launched an Election Night blog today to track races and ballot measures of particular interest to the gay, lesbian, bi and trans community. The blog will post live updates tonight.

They also have a good round-up of key elections at stake.

If you're in Washington, D.C., join me at the Election Night Out party this evening hosted by HRC, the Gay & Lesbian Victory Fund, National Black Justice Coalition, and the National Gay and Lesbian Task Force.

Click for event details:



Bloggers Watching the Elections:

HRC Election Night Blog
Americablog
Pam's House Blend
Daily Kos
Gay Patriot
The Brad Blog

Plus: Election Coverage on AOL

Any predictions, readers? Voter fraud stories to share?

I really want to sing along with Barbra and Judy tomorrow. Please VOTE!

 


Doogie KO's Haggard



My friend Jerry Weinstein sent in a guest blog post today comparing Neil Patrick Harris' coming out to that of former pastor Ted Haggard. Check out his analysis and let me know what you think.

In this corner we have a former child star, currently riding high on his portrayal of womanizer par excellence on the CBS sitcom, How I Met Your Mother. (Making Dan Butler's portray of Bulldog Briscoe on Frasier look like Deepak Chopra.)



In that corner we have the star of Jesus Camp, clerical confidante to the Bush administration. Hear him exhort the absolute sin of homosexuality:



In nearly the same news cycle each came out of the closet.

The former, a veteran of musical theater (Sondheim, yet!) perhaps reacting to whisperings on Canada.com and PerezHilton, took the high road. Outdistancing even TR Knight's admission to SGL, Neil Patrick Harris gave it up to People mag: "… [I] am quite proud to say that I am a very content gay man living my life to the fullest and feel most fortunate to be working with wonderful people in the business I love."

The latter, the titular head of the 30 million strong National Association of Evangelicals, declared his adventures in sodomy not as an elective, but in the interest of purging his quote, unquote "sexual immorality."

All this weekend, Haggard's quelqu'n, escort Mike Jones, appeared on the cable news nets, telling the likes of Rita "Kathleen Turner on testosterone" Cosby that he didn't regret exposing the man, but that he was, in fact, sorry for the man's family.

Again and again, I'm hearing that Foley, and now Haggard, are exceptional. That their fall from grace won't affect the evangelical vote, because according to bright bulb J.C. Watts, the former Ottawa Rough Riders quarterback and Oklahoma Congressman, "the Word doesn't change."

Since no one has called him on it, I will.

The issue here isn't about sexual immorality, it is about sexual hypocrisy.

Let's work out the math: Those who condemn – let's not mince words here – the long-term unions of same-sex partners, because they themselves are going against their true nature, tend to live a double life. While preaching that heterosexuality is "God's plan," manipulating scripture to validate their self-hate, they commit infidelities and not infrequently spiral into substance abuse. (Granted. It's hard work to be Pope-infallible, just ask "Book of Virtues" author and gambler Bill Bennett, or oxy-popper/doctor shopper Rush Limbaugh.) All the while these Men of The Word use their (literal) bully pulpit to legislate from the Pew against those who are sexual minorities. 

One man has managed to integrate his private and professional lives. And can you think of a better moment? The charge that Neil Patrick Harris can't play straight which has dogged fortysomething's such as Rupert Everett carries no water here. As Barney, NPH makes for a convincing male chauvinist pig. 

The other man hides out in seclusion, bags packed for some retreat – Ex-Gay Camp? Electroshock therapy? Stage 4 couples counseling?

I only feel sorry that this Roy Cohn for Religion has been deceiving his flock into hating the Gays, and in the process negating their humanity.  Don't let the mainstream media spin this simply as a 21st century Jimmy Swaggart story. They're only looking at the symptom, rather than treating the homophobia.

Jerry Weinstein is a New York-based writer. He writes under the name Parry Social on the blog Verge, at MediaVillage.com.

 


Monday 6 November 2006

Translated: Ted Haggard's Letter to New Life Church



Following is the actual letter from former pastor Ted Haggard that was read to the congregation of the New Life Church yesterday. Haggard apologizes for the drug/sex scandal that brought about his dismissal as pastor. 

Sometimes what's between the lines reveals more about the story than the lines themselves. Here then in black is what he wrote; my translation of what he might really have been thinking is in red.

To my New Life Church family:

I am so sorry. I am sorry for the disappointment, the betrayal, and the hurt. I am sorry for the horrible example I have set for you.

God, was I stupid! <<bangs head against pulpit>>

I have an overwhelming, all-consuming sadness in my heart for the pain that you and I and my family have experienced over the past few days. I am so sorry for the circumstances that have caused shame and embarrassment to all of you.

Whoa. I thought you'd buy that story that the dude was just there to give me a massage.

I asked that this note be read to you this morning so I could clarify my heart's condition to you. The last four days have been so difficult for me, my family and all of you, and I have further confused the situation with some of the things I've said during interviews with reporters who would catch me coming or going from my home.

The only person I've lied to more than the press is my wife. She is gonna friggin' kill me.

But I alone am responsible for the confusion caused by my inconsistent statements. The fact is, I am guilty of sexual immorality, and I take responsibility for the entire problem.

I guess I took "hate the sin, love the sinner" a little too literally. Lost my head!

I am a deceiver and a liar. There is a part of my life that is so repulsive and dark that I've been warring against it all of my adult life.

I like penis.

For extended periods of time, I would enjoy victory and rejoice in freedom. Then, from time to time, the dirt that I thought was gone would resurface, and I would find myself thinking thoughts and experiencing desires that were contrary to everything I believe and teach.

When a man wraps his huge, muscular arms around me ... I mean, there's nothing like it! Unless I'm thinking about Jesus, then it's troublesome.

Through the years, I've sought assistance in a variety of ways, with none of them proving to be effective in me. Then, because of pride, I began deceiving those I love the most because I didn't want to hurt or disappoint them.

Crystal meth? I honestly never thought we'd be having this conversation.

The public person I was wasn't a lie; it was just incomplete. When I stopped communicating about my problems, the darkness increased and finally dominated me. As a result, I did things that were contrary to everything I believe.

Hee hee, I said "dominated me."

The accusations that have been leveled against me are not all true, but enough of them are true that I have been appropriately and lovingly removed from ministry. Our church's overseers have required me to submit to the oversight of Dr. James Dobson, Pastor Jack Hayford, and Pastor Tommy Barnett. Those men will perform a thorough analysis of my mental, spiritual, emotional, and physical life. They will guide me through a program with the goal of healing and restoration for my life, my marriage, and my family.

James, Jack, Tommy ... working me over? That is so 'Queer as Folk!' Wait... Dobson, Hayford, Barnett? Ewww.

I created thisentire situation. The things that I did opened the door for additional allegations . But I am responsible; I alone need tobe disciplined and corrected. An example must be set.

Damn that Mike Jones for seeing me on the Discovery Channel. Never hire a hooker who has cable. NEVER! (Hee hee, I said "disciplined.")

It is important that you know how much I love and appreciate my wife, Gayle. WhatI did should never reflect in a negative way on her relationship with me. She has been and continues to be incredible. The problem is not with her, my children or any of you. It was created 100 percent by me.

My wife does not have a penis. You know, now that I think about it, is gay marriage really so bad?

I have been permanently removed from the office of Senior Pastor of New Life Church. Until a new senior pastor is chosen, our Associate Senior Pastor Ross Parsley will assume all of the the responsibilities of the office. On the day he accepted this new role, he and his wife, Aimee, had a new baby boy. A new life in the midst of this circumstance - I consider the confluence of events to be prophetic. Please commit to join with Pastor Ross and the others in church leadership to make their service to you easy and without burden. They are fine leaders. You are blessed.

I'm sorry for getting all homo on you guys. I'm hoping I can get my job back. Thoughts?

I appreciate your loving and forgiving nature, and I humbly ask you to do a few things.
[Editor: His four humble requests are omitted. I don't have all day, you know.]

Gayle and I need to be gone for a while. We will never return to a leadership role at New Life Church. In our hearts, we will always be members of this body. We love you as our family. I know this situation will put you to the test. I'm sorry I've created the test, but please rise to this challenge and demonstate the incredible grace that is available to all of us.

I wonder if MCC is hiring. This seriously sucks! Could I ever go for some crank and a good rubdown right about now.

Ted Haggard